Martha Martha Martha
Posted by Lanea on Friday, May 12th, 2006
<p>While we’re here on our musical sojourn . . .</p>
<p>As I think I’ve made clear, I’m not one for treacle. I think music and poetry have much larger roles to fulfill than just supplying "pretty." Verse, whether read or sung, allows the transmission of giant, important truths of existence, whether they’re nice or not. Terrible things need expression too.</p>
<p>I have my buttons, and one of the biggest, shiniest buttons says "some fathers are terrible, and we’re allowed to say that" on it. Of course I don’t think all fathers are bad. I lucked into a good Step-father, my big brother is an amazing father, and I’m surrounded by friends who have turned out to be wonderful fathers. I celebrate them. I do. </p>
<p>But the button is still there. Sylvia Plath found the button with "<a href=”http://judithpordon.tripod.com/poetry/id302.html”>Daddy</a>," and I will love her forever for voicing something for me when I was simply too young to be able to express it. I can’t even think to count the number of wrongs that have been done to women I know by their fathers (I’m obviously including myself here–no weak attempts at cloaking necessary). And, as if having a crap father isn’t bad enough, we’re generally taught we’re not allowed to tell people when our fathers are jackasses. Well screw that. People who are nasty to their family members deserve to feel shame, particularly if they’re nasty to children or pregnant women. </p>
<p>Not that I have a strong opinion on the matter, or anything. Or that my opinion is bolstered when, every few years in spring, I have to fill out the security paperwork we contractors know so well, and then have to explain to some stranger that, no, I don’t have a phone number for my illustrious father and, no, I won’t seek one out but you’re welcome to, thankyouverymuch. </p>
<p>I’m coming to a point. Listening closely to <a href=”http://www.marthawainwright.com/”>Martha Wainwright</a> has been on my to-do list for a while. I’m a big fan of her brother, <a href=”http://rufuswainwright.com/”>Rufus Wainwright</a>, and I’ve always been curious about their family dynamic. </p>
<p>I’d heard <a href=”http://www.azlyrics.com/lyrics/marthawainwright/bloodymotherfuckingasshole.html”>Bloody MF A-hole</a> (I can’t believe I just censored that . . . it’s like I think there are kids in the room) before, but not listened that closely. So I didn’t know until five seconds ago it’s about her father, Loudoun "I abandoned my kids but still use them as fodder for my songs" Wainwright. She is lashing back at him for being so cruel to her in his songs for so long. </p>
<p><em>Poetry is no place for a heart that’s a whore.</em></p>
<p>Couldn’t have said it better myself, Martha. </p>
<p><em>I will not pretend<br />I will not put on a smile<br />I will not say I’m all right for you<br />For you, whoever you are<br />For you, whoever you are<br />For you, whoever you are</em></p>
<p>Martha, you’ve made my day. It’s anthemic. It’s a knee to that sanctimonious groin. It pushes the button down and holds it for just long enough. You’re a giant killer, and I love you for it. </p>
<p>Listen to <a href=”http://www.npr.org/templates/story/story.php?storyId=5325695″>Martha Wainwright</a> live at the 9:30 club (free legal download!). And then listen to the Neko Case show, available on the same page. It’s better for you than vitamins and roughage. </p>
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